In a time when the digital realm, including online dating, can often feel like a battleground rather than a valuable tool for connection, it’s no surprise that “Are We Dating the Same Guy” Facebook groups are popping up in every city. Many women, in particular, find themselves disheartened and embittered. While they may seek these types of online forums hoping for community and information, the result often falls short, instead perpetuating tales of dating horrors that only serve to heighten their sense of alarm and resentment. As a result, the divide between men and women in the dating world deepens as weekly think-pieces emerge, offering tips on how to spot so-called “red flags” or decipher the ever-expanding lexicon of dating phrases such as “ghosting”, “breadcrumbing” “situationship” along with a multitude of others.
Meanwhile, those attempting to transcend gender-based identities or who engage in non-traditional relationship structures such as polyamory or ethical non-monogamy are often alienated from the dating community as a whole, leaving them severely lacking in supportive spaces or resources that could increase their chances of forging meaningful connections. At the end of the day, we are all here for but a brief chapter and simply want to surround ourselves with people and spaces that make us feel validated and accepted as we are. Unfortunately, the current dynamics at play in the dating landscape can lead us to lose touch not only with each other but, perhaps more disappointingly, with ourselves.
As your Dating Coach, I want to steer your attention and energy away from the noise or opinions of others in favor of a heavy emphasis on your inner-voice and intuition as a guide. I will work alongside you to get to the root of what specifically you are seeking during your dating journey and, once those goals have been clearly refined, assist you in moving toward reaching those objectives in a way that feels most authentic to who you are or are striving to become. This may involve such matters as managing dating anxiety, becoming familiar with attachment and communication styles, or reframing core beliefs or messaging that is hindering your view of yourself and those close to you.
My extensive experience coaching women and men as well as working as a “Super-Connector” in the matchmaking industry (I have a network of thousands of singles in various cities around the country) places me in a unique position to be able to provide you with a diverse array of helpful resources and insights. I’ll be the first to admit that my style and approach is not for everyone; I will choose not to take you on as a client if I don’t sincerely feel I have something to offer you along your journey. This is an investment in yourself and your future and I don’t take my role in that lightly.