As a former conflict averse person, I know first hand how to bury or rationalize away my concerns with family, friends, and intimate partners to avoid hard conversations. It takes practice and intentional thought to execute hard conversations. In these sessions, we go through a step-by-step process for how to have hard conversations. Here is the general outline:
We work on ourselves first to prepare for the conversation (this is the majority of the work)
Here are a few example questions:
*What is the purpose for the conversation?
*What assumptions are being made?
*What are your needs and fears?
*What is the desired outcome?
We will go through 4 steps to plan the conversation:
We rehearse the conversation in various modalities
We reconnect after the conversation to debrief, reflect, and plan next steps.
Information from each session will be documented on a shared Google doc for your review.